In 2000 had ik een wenkbrauwpiercig

In 2000 had ik een wenkbrauwpiercig en een vette zonnebril

(Ik deed dit interview op Coming Out Day voor een blog die het vervolgens niet plaatste. NOU DAN DOE IK HET TOCH ZELF!!)

Hoe ben jij uit de kast gekomen? Vond je dit moeilijk?
Ik ben bij m’n ouders eigenlijk nooit officieel uit de kast gekomen, zo van: ik moet jullie wat vertellen. Rond m’n 16e was ik ontzettend verliefd geworden op m’n beste vriend, en toen hij verkering kreeg met een meisje was ik heel verdrietig. M’n moeder zag dat en vroeg er naar, ik moest huilen en toen was het allemaal wel duidelijk. Later heb ik het aan een paar vrienden verteld en hoewel iedereen erg verrast was, vond ik dat niet echt moeilijk. Ik liep al vanaf m’n twaalfde met het gevoel dat er iets met me was en omdat ik er niks van snapte, onderdrukte ik het maar. Daar werd ik heel somber van, dus toen ik eenmaal snapte dat ik homo was en het kon vertellen, luchtte dat wel op. Ik ben altijd wel vrij selectief geweest met wie ik het vertelde, want ik vond het totaal niet nodig dat iedereen het wist.

Hoe reageerde je omgeving?
Behalve m’n moeder had niemand het verwacht, maar iedereen reageerde prima. Natuurlijk zeiden sommige jongens domme dingen als ‘Als je maar niet zo’n nicht wordt’ en meisjes ‘Oh dan kunnen we samen jongens kijken!’ maar dat was goed bedoeld. Ook de laatste jaren als ik het vertelde aan collega’s of nieuwe vrienden (want uit de kast komen gaat je hele leven door) kreeg ik nooit slechte reacties. Alleen altijd: ‘Dat had ik echt niet verwacht!’ Dat moet je dan als een soort compliment opvatten, maar als je tegen een heterojongen zou zeggen ‘Je lijkt helemaal geen hetero!’ is ‘ie beledigd. Als drummer in een rockband ben ik wel altijd een uitzondering geweest in een hetero-wereld. Op internet zijn er wel wat lelijke dingen over me gezegd, maar ik denk eigenlijk dat de rest van de band minstens net zo vaak flikker/gay/fag/nicht is genoemd als ik haha! In interviews met bijvoorbeeld de Hitkrant ben ik altijd eerlijk geweest, ook omdat ik vroeger zelf best een tof ‘rolmodel’ had kunnen gebruiken.

Wat is je het meest bijgebleven?
De coming out aan m’n oudere broer vond ik het lastigst. Hij maakte soms flauwe homograppen en m’n ouders vonden het ongemakkelijk dat hij het nog niet wist, dus ik kreeg een deadline van m’n moeder. Je kan voor eeuwig wachten op het juiste moment, maar dat komt toch nooit dus ineens floepte ik het eruit. Zijn reactie: ‘Oh, ok.’ Vind ik nog steeds de beste reactie die er bestaat.

結果 (英語) 1:

In 2000 I had a wenkbrauwpiercig and oily sunglasses(I did this interview on Coming Out Day for a blog that it is not set. WELL I'LL DO IT ANYWAY THEMSELVES!!)How are you out of the closet? Did you like this difficult?I am at my parents never actually officially come out of the closet, so tell you what: I need's. Around my 16th I was fallen in love with my best friend, and when he courtship with a girl I was very sad. My mother saw that and asked to, I had to cry and when it was all clear. Later I told it to a few friends and although everyone was quite surprised, I found that not really difficult. I ran from my twelfth with the feeling that there was something with me and because I understood it but nothing like I, suppressed. There I was very gloomy, so once I understood that I was gay and could tell, aired though on. I have always been quite selective with whom I told because I found it totally not necessary that everyone knew.How did your environment?Except my mother had no one expected, but everyone responded fine. Of course said some guys silly things like ' If you but not such a niece is ' and girls ' Oh then we can together guys look! ' but that was well intentioned. Also the last years when I told colleagues or new friends (because the stops come your whole life by) I never got bad reactions. Only always: ' That I had not really expected! ' That you must then interpret as a kind of compliment, but if you hit a straight guy would say ' you seem no hetero! ' is ' ie offended. As a drummer in a rock band, I am always an exception in a straight world. On internet there are some ugly things about me, but I actually think that the rest of the band at least as often faggot/gay/fag/niece is called like me haha! For example, in interviews with Dutch pop magazine Hitkrant, I have always been honest, also because I used to own quite a great ' role model ' could have used.What's your head?Coming out to my older brother I found the most difficult part. He sometimes made gentle gay jokes and my parents found it uncomfortable that he still didn't know, so I got my mothers a deadline. You can forever waiting for the right time, but that's never so all of a sudden I popped it out. His reaction: ' Oh, ok. ' I still find the best response that exists.

結果 (英語) 2:

In 2000 I had a wenkbrauwpiercig and bold sunglasses (I did this interview on Coming Out ​​Day for a blog then fail to put it. WELL THEN I DO IT YOURSELF YET !!) How did you come out of the closet? Did you like this hard? I'm at my parents never really officially come out of the closet, like: I have to tell you something. Around my 16th I had become terribly in love with my best friend, and when he got involved with a girl I was very sad. My mom saw that and asked for it, I cried and then it was all clear. Later I told a few friends and although everyone was very surprised, I did not really think hard. I had been since I was twelfth with the feeling that something was wrong with me and because I understood nothing of it, I suppressed it. There I was very bleak, so once I understood that I was gay and it could tell, which aired it on. I've always been quite selective with whom I told it, because I thought it was totally not necessary that everybody knew. How did you live? Except my mother had no one expected it, but everyone has responded well. Of course some guys saying stupid things like "Just do not be such a cousin 'and girls' Oh, we can look together guys!' but it was well intentioned. The last few years when I told it to colleagues or new friends (for coming out goes your whole life) I never had bad reactions. Only always "something I had not really expected!" That you have to perceive it as a sort of compliment, but if you hit a straight guy would say, "You seem not straight at all! ' is' ​​he offended. As a drummer in a rock band I have always been an exception in a heterosexual world. On the Internet there are some ugly things said about me, but I actually think that the rest of the band at least as often queer / gay / fag / niece is named as me haha! In interviews with the Hitkrant example, I have always been honest, because I used to own a pretty cool 'role model' could have used. What is your mind? The coming out with my older brother, I found the hardest. He made ​​some lame gay jokes and my parents found it uncomfortable that he did not know it, so I got a deadline of my mother. You can wait forever at the right time, but that never comes so suddenly I popped it out. His response: "Oh, ok." I still find the best reaction that exists.

結果 (英語) 3:

In 2000 i had a wenkbrauwpiercig and a greasy sunglasses

(I did this interview on Coming Out Day for a blog that do not then put. WELL THEN I STILL ITSELF!! )

How do you come out of the closet? Did you find this difficult?
i am in m'n parents never really officially from the cabinet, that I must tell you what tell you.Around m'n 16e i was incredibly in love with m'n best friend, and when he was made with a girl i was very sad. M'n mother saw that and asked it to, i had to cry and when it was all clear. Later, i told it to a few friends and although everyone was very surprised, i found that not really difficult.